Human Dignity: one coin–two sides

image015Watching the 2016 Presidential primaries there’s no doubt this is a primary season like no other in recent memory. As Trump takes over the GOP and shocks the traditionalists, Sanders is as much a shock to the Democratic side of the equation as the young flock to him to listen to his message of Democratic Socialism.

Underlying both sides of these extremes appears to be a huge anger at the status quo system. The general populace is no longer interested in maintaining the status quo. Trump supporters appear ready to blow up the system with a leader that promises greatness with no real plan. Sanders supporters appear ready to turn old style capitalism on its ear and transform it towards a market economy mixed with social awareness of the value of all citizens not just the wealthy.

As I’ve watched this process, it occurred to me that the Wholeness Choosing Continuum is a perfect reflection of these two different extremes. Trump/GOP group is the 0-5 side—reactive, unconscious and playing the victim to a world that they no longer feel they have a chance to achieve the 5 of status quo/middle class wealth. As they watch the old story of ‘grow up, get a job, spouse, house, cars, kids and you’ll find happily ever after’ slip from their grasp, they are blaming it on immigrants, or those they think are living off huge entitlements like welfare (?) and food stamps (?). They are ready to take out their angst on everyone else, sure that once all those ‘others’ are gone then ‘they’ll be great again’. And in this reactive process, they’ve latched on to Trump who promises to blow it all up and start again. Continue reading

Guru You!

buddha-mdThe other day I was watching TV and a commercial came on highlighting a series of “experts” that were offering a daylong event.  They were shown talking to a large auditorium of people sitting rapturously as they waited for the wisdom to be imparted that they felt would change their lives.

It occurred to me that I’ve watched this scenario now for decades.  Audiences file in to hear some thought leader and then buy their books and hope to change their lives.  And yet, those very same thought leaders are still on stage essentially saying the same thing again and again.  And I thought–if what they’re saying really works, why haven’t we all gotten it by now and found our way?

The larger question, however, may be why we don’t feel confident to be our own thought leader? Why are we looking outside ourselves instead of inside? One answer of course is that we grow up being dependent on parents, teachers, ministers, rabbis, etc.so we get accustomed to looking outward.   But why are we still looking outside our SELF at 30, 45 or 60? Why don’t we trust that we can be our own guru? Continue reading

Not done @ 21!!!

As another school year begins…….

High school graduates are soon heading off to college and college graduates have entered the real world.  Both of these transitions represent two of the most intense times of our lives.  We are leaving a comfort zone of friends, family and the known while heading into the unknown.  We may be excited as can be about it all–but nonetheless, it is a very unsettling time requiring tremendous learning, new choices, establishing new patterns and social contacts.

Did you know that 40% of freshman drop out of college? (and never go back!) Did you know that depression rates skyrocket after college graduation.  What’s going on here?

As a counselor I have worked extensively with the 18-24 age bracket.  It is very important to show them that they are still working to form their SELF.  Boundaries are not fully developed and the SELF is unsure of so many pieces of their Life Puzzle.  In this overwhelming state, with lots of choices to be made, many in this age bracket shut down and feel defeated. I love working with them and showing them how to turn defeat into an adventure of living instead.

NOT DONE @ 21 !!!!

One of the chief complaints I heard from so many of these young adults was their belief/feeling that they were “behind”.  That somehow by 21 they needed to have figured it all out and that was not happening!  As I mulled on this more and more, I felt compelled to make this issue more visible and talked about. With several clients, I had “dialogues” about this issue.  I turned those dialogues into a short booklet I’ve put together called “Not done @ 21—building wholeness in a 100 year life”. Continue reading

Wholeness is a Universal Model–we are all in this together.

The primary mission at Triangle Whole, Well and Good is to make “Wholeness” a visible framework that people can use to build vibrant and dynamic lives.

Right now, only about 15% of the population has an awareness of wholeness as a guiding principle for the way they live.  Mostly this is because it has only been possible in the last 30 years or so to understand Wholeness as a framework. That means the grand majority of people have yet to be exposed to the concept of Wholeness let alone know how to use it in their lives.

Universal model: Wholeness works for everyone.

The beauty of Wholeness is that it is a “Universal model”.  The 16 core areas and 5 edges that create the SELF are a potential within every human on the planet.  Wholeness acts as a guide for what’s necessary in order to create a life that is full and satisfying.

What if the entire world of 7 billion people understood and used wholeness as a framework for building their lives?

This may seem pie in the sky, but really stop and think about this.  If every person you encountered understood wholeness and used it to guide their life, wouldn’t we have a different world than we do now when only 15% are aware?  Yes, we would and that’s the big hoary audacious goal of Triangle Whole, Well and Good–move from 15% to 100%! Continue reading

This year….try loving it.

I was at the gym this morning and a man walked up to me and said “I think you have the happiest face of anyone in this gym.  You are always smiling when you work out!”

I laughed and said,  “Thanks and that yes, I’m probably one of the few people in the gym who really likes working out. I decided long ago that if I’m going to be here on a regular basis, I may as well enjoy it and I do!”  He nodded and said he did too and then walked off.

Then I started reflecting and realized–here it is the middle of December which means in just a little over three weeks the gym will be flooded with people who, once again, are going to try to get in shape, lose weight and live up to their New Year’s resolution.clip-art-yoga-518279 Continue reading

Having it all, but what is All?

I thought I had it all….

One of the things I noticed when I first began my practice was how many successful people were not really happy. 

j0356624Often they would say to me, “I have the house, the cars, the kids, and everything that goes with it, aren’t I supposed to be happy now?” Some had even gotten bigger houses and newer cars and a few more kids, but still they felt something was missing. Continue reading

Wholeness or Happiness?

March 20th was International Day of Happiness.  And of course, it brought a smile to all our faces.  Who doesn’t want a happier world?

It concerns me though that the word “Happiness” is getting such prominence in our media.  “Happiness” infers a state of being–a place where you live in a positive world where life is all pleasant.  It reflects the oft heard childhood phrase “And they all lived happily-ever-after”. Continue reading

Life Puzzle: a framework for wholeness

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Life Puzzle, by Ann G. Kramer, EdS LPC is a framework used to help clients grow whole and dynamic lives. If you are interested in learning more, please use the Contact Us form to email an inquiry (see top menu).

I see clients at my office in Cary, NC

1127 Kildaire Farm Rd.  Cary, NC 27511

919 518 3717 or email Ann@lifepuzzle.com

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