Not done @ 21!!!

As another school year begins…….

High school graduates are soon heading off to college and college graduates have entered the real world.  Both of these transitions represent two of the most intense times of our lives.  We are leaving a comfort zone of friends, family and the known while heading into the unknown.  We may be excited as can be about it all–but nonetheless, it is a very unsettling time requiring tremendous learning, new choices, establishing new patterns and social contacts.

Did you know that 40% of freshman drop out of college? (and never go back!) Did you know that depression rates skyrocket after college graduation.  What’s going on here?

As a counselor I have worked extensively with the 18-24 age bracket.  It is very important to show them that they are still working to form their SELF.  Boundaries are not fully developed and the SELF is unsure of so many pieces of their Life Puzzle.  In this overwhelming state, with lots of choices to be made, many in this age bracket shut down and feel defeated. I love working with them and showing them how to turn defeat into an adventure of living instead.

NOT DONE @ 21 !!!!

One of the chief complaints I heard from so many of these young adults was their belief/feeling that they were “behind”.  That somehow by 21 they needed to have figured it all out and that was not happening!  As I mulled on this more and more, I felt compelled to make this issue more visible and talked about. With several clients, I had “dialogues” about this issue.  I turned those dialogues into a short booklet I’ve put together called “Not done @ 21—building wholeness in a 100 year life”. Continue reading

Wholeness….what does that mean?

Wholeness can mean many things:

Here at Life Puzzle–we’re talking about building a whole life.  A Whole life means recognizing that you are a physical, emotional, thinking, sexual and spiritual being.  Building a Whole life is a conscious effort to honor these 5 dimensions of yourself through daily actions over the course of your life.

Start with the Whole in mind: 

When you start with the Whole in mind–you start at the SELF or personal level.   But then to this each SELF fits into a Whole family.  A Whole family is one where all individuals are building their individual Whole SELF within the framework of the larger family. Each member respects that everyone is a vital component of a Whole family. Continue reading